Something happened today that makes me wonder if I'm really too naïve and soft when it comes to interpersonal relationships.
As I noted in this previous post, I hate conflict, and generally do what I can to avoid it. It's not that I'm a wet noodle - not at all in fact. It's just that I think that in every situation, tact and diplomacy will get the point across better, more effectively and more efficiently. With very few exceptions, I just don't think I'm capable of being verbally aggressive, and I feel so completely uncomfortable when those around me are.
I gave myself the challenge to better deal with conflict. I'm still not 100% sure how I'm going to do that, but I do want to stop shirking away from it. If I am really as convinced as I say I am that tact and diplomacy (and honestly) can win every time, then maybe I should just take my own advice.
I kind of did today, and it did turn out pretty well. (OK: I could have voiced my real view much stronger, but still, it's a start, right?!?!) Maybe it's not so much the confrontation I hate, but the aggression. So maybe regardless of how an opponent is acting, I just have to stay true to myself and address the conflict at hand with how I think it should be handled.
Gosh. Could this blog entry be any more vague? Apologies to anyone reading.
On a more hands-on note. I haven't written about this yet, but my three-year-old is scheduled for surgery next week. She's to have permanent ear tubes placed to drain her ears, two years after she had her first set or regular tubes in. She's really looking forward to living pain free and with (we hope) proper hearing. So are we, as her hearing loss and constant pain have had a huge effect on her behaviour. We saw the effect the temporary tubes had on her before, and I really look forward to seeing my little girl healthy again.
Tomorrow we go to the hospital for some pre-op tests. Kiddo also has a heart murmur, so we have to meet with a couple specialists before the surgery to make sure we have any loose ends tied up.
Wish us luck!
As I noted in this previous post, I hate conflict, and generally do what I can to avoid it. It's not that I'm a wet noodle - not at all in fact. It's just that I think that in every situation, tact and diplomacy will get the point across better, more effectively and more efficiently. With very few exceptions, I just don't think I'm capable of being verbally aggressive, and I feel so completely uncomfortable when those around me are.
I gave myself the challenge to better deal with conflict. I'm still not 100% sure how I'm going to do that, but I do want to stop shirking away from it. If I am really as convinced as I say I am that tact and diplomacy (and honestly) can win every time, then maybe I should just take my own advice.
I kind of did today, and it did turn out pretty well. (OK: I could have voiced my real view much stronger, but still, it's a start, right?!?!) Maybe it's not so much the confrontation I hate, but the aggression. So maybe regardless of how an opponent is acting, I just have to stay true to myself and address the conflict at hand with how I think it should be handled.
Gosh. Could this blog entry be any more vague? Apologies to anyone reading.
On a more hands-on note. I haven't written about this yet, but my three-year-old is scheduled for surgery next week. She's to have permanent ear tubes placed to drain her ears, two years after she had her first set or regular tubes in. She's really looking forward to living pain free and with (we hope) proper hearing. So are we, as her hearing loss and constant pain have had a huge effect on her behaviour. We saw the effect the temporary tubes had on her before, and I really look forward to seeing my little girl healthy again.
Tomorrow we go to the hospital for some pre-op tests. Kiddo also has a heart murmur, so we have to meet with a couple specialists before the surgery to make sure we have any loose ends tied up.
Wish us luck!
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